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Talking To Your Teen
My parents were
divorced when I approached the threshold of
sexual maturity. I wasn't really sure
why my body was having all the strange
feelings and wanting to be touched in a way
my mother would have considered to be
dirty. Oh the messages she would give
as I grew older. I can still remember
her saying that if you or someone touch your
privates you would become sick. If you
let a man do things to you, you will die.
It scared me but it didn't stop me
We are animals.
Very few people go through life
without some form of sexual awareness.
Our urges are natural and we really
shouldn't send a message to our teens that
it's dirty, weird or wrong. We need
our children to go into the world with a
healthy outlook on sex. Letting them
know that it's okay to gratify themselves
would be the first step towards removing
barriers. A parent should encourage
behaviors that promote safety as well as
independence. Letting your child know
that he or she does not require a sexual
partner for satisfaction will help to
eliminate countless sexual encounters with
partners that are only in it for their own
Every opportunity is
a good opportunity to talk to your child. If
your child talks to you about their friends dating
people that might not be suitable, seize the moment.
If you are driving down the road with your
child and you witness a lovers physical quarrel,
take advantage and start talking about why people
get into unhealthy relationships
Knowing what to say is very difficult as every teen
is different. Don't use a generic version of
the "sex talk" with your kids. You want to
express your concerns without violating boundaries
or freaking them out with the nitty gritty of sex.
Here is some suggestions that you might find
helpful when your
child is ready for the talk:
can still remember being your age. Things
were so different back then and my parents had a
much different outlook on life. It seems like we
are overdue for one of those grown up talks.
I don't want to feed you the same stuff my
parents fed me so let's be open. I want
you to know that your body is your body.
You don't need a partner in order to find
pleasure, if you know what I mean. If you want
I, would be willing to help you purchase healthy
devices online so you can fulfill your needs
safely without disease.
day I was surfing around and I realized
just how grown up you are. The days of old
are long gone and your needs have changed.
I'm very worried about things that are out
there. There are so many diseases,
violence and controlling people. I don't
want to see anything bad happen to you. I
believe in self gratification and there are
different ways to achieve that. If you
don't mind I would like to send you a link in
your e-mail to a site with things that might
interest you. You can do this on your own
in private but if you ever need to talk to
someone, I am always there for you.
have a boyfriend/girlfriend yet? Dating is
fun and I have no problems with you dating.
On that note, I do have a problem with you
having sex. There are so many diseases out
there and they can be deadly. I love you
very much and I know that I can't stop you from
having sex but I can suggest you refrain from
having sex with a partner. There are so
many toys out there and they are safe.
With toys there is no chance of pregnancy,
no disease and no one ever has to know.
You can buy it in person or online. I'm
only suggesting this because I care about you.
It is important that
you as a parent takes the time to talk to your
child. Don't leave it in the hands of other
teens, people with ulterior motives or people with
different morals than you. It is your
children and you have to be proactive in order to
protect them. Even if you don't believe in
self gratification you still need to talk to your
teen about sex. Remember,